Jane complains that her husband does not understand her and that he does not let her go out of the house without asking for his permission. She goes on to mention that if she wants to go to see her friends or the mall she has to tell him. Jane also has to ask for his permission if she wishes to buy something that is not necessary. Basically, he tries to control her moves.
If you are a woman, you might ask, how can you deal with a controlling spouse? How can you stop his abusive behavior? If you are in a controlling relationship, then follow the below guideline:
1. Talk to your husband about the issue. Your husband might not even realize that you are being hurt from his controlling behavior and he might just be following his father’s behavior or someone else’s.
2. Explain to him that you have different personality than him and that controlling you is creating a wedge between you two. Make sure he understands that there is nothing wrong with going out whether you want to go to see some friends, mall, work or wherever.
3. Concentrate on how trustworthy and loyal you are to him and that you want to go out with your friends just to hang out and keep in touch with your friends. Just make sure you reiterate the fact that you are loyal to him. Let him see how loyal you are through your actions as well.
4. Work on enhancing your relationship with your spouse. Make it a daily habit to work and do something different and uplifting for your partner to gain his love and trust.
Rescuing your relationship from your controlling spouse is essential, otherwise, your relationship with your spouse will deteriorate and you are likely to experience depression, low self esteem, and low self confidence. I don’t think you want that, do you?